Life is prickly.
That is where all the stories we tell ourselves come from.
The prickly things.
We tell ourselves so many things after we feel pain.
I caught myself doing that, last night.
It was about someone who wasn’t getting pricked as much as me.
And I noticed my inner story start.
“Some people have it easy.
They don’t work as hard as you and they get ahead, regardless.”
The story went on to say why do they get away with less pain and struggle.
In that moment I realized how that sounded.
Would it be better if everyone hurt the same?
As often. As much?
Would it make my own heart hurt less?
It sure wouldn’t.
So why was I mad about this woman who was getting away with less pain?
It hit me then.
I have always felt that others had it easier.
While OTHERS were on roller skates. My lane always had obstacles.
But if I had the choice, would I choose the skates over the hurdles?
Would I? And who is the I?
You see the human Christina is jealous of the skaters.
But the soul Christina knows she is on a hero’s journey.
And has been from when she was very young.
Joseph Campbell always said it well.
“You enter the forest at the darkest point,
where there is no path.
Where there is a way or path,
it is someone else’s path.
You are not on your own path.
If you follow someone else’s way,
you are not going to realize your potential.”
And as I looked back at this woman’s easier journey, I saw something that I hadn’t seen before.
She used someone else’s light to enter the forest at the darkest point.
Joseph Campbell said,
“The goal of life is to make your heartbeat match the beat of the universe,
to match your nature with Nature.”
If you enter the dark forest, your heart has to match the darkness.
And that is how we know that we are living our potential,
that we are on the right path.
I know if you have subscribed to this letter, you have gone through something really difficult.
Next time you see your friends on their skates please remember that when they see you overcoming your hurdles they also notice your hero’s cape.
With an assortment of capes,
P.S. I hope you are reading my book Where Did You Go?
and journeying to connect with your loved ones often.
PPS. And if you are enjoying the podcast please leave a review here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-life-with-christina-rasmussen/id1465291728
PPPS. Also my good friend Kristine Carlson has written an amazing book that combines grief and the hero’s journey.