I posted a video about the Life Reentry class on facebook the other day and a woman commented under it, why don’t you put some makeup on Christina?
At first, I responded casually.
I did have some makeup on, but it’s been a long day of zoom calls and work.
And then I started thinking about it.
Hmmm. Did I not look good?
Am I getting old?
Maybe I should put on heavier makeup next time so it stays on longer.
I should be more professional.
What was I thinking?
The inner narration paused for a while.
Then I looked in the mirror and saw all of my new wrinkles.
Neck lines and all. The inner narration picked up right where it left off.
Well, you are approaching 50 what did you think was going to happen?
You weren’t going to look good forever.
The days of your good looks are gone.
And just like that.
A random stranger had all this power.
I know you too have probably experienced similar comments about the choices you make with your physical body.
To the woman who was curious about my no makeup face I know you only asked because someone else asked you the same question.
Probably early on in your life, and you may not even remember it. I get it.
I have lived in that same world you have.
And now together we will walk out of it.
Not because there is anything wrong with wearing makeup, but not wearing it should not take away from our value. The intelligence that lives behind the eyeshadow.
The humor that lurks under the lipstick.
The modern woman has many faces.
And all of them belong to her.
If you are a man reading this letter I know you already loved a woman just the way she chose to be.
If you are a woman reading this letter don’t let anyone dictate your looks.
And if you are non binary thank you for paving the way towards a non judgmental world.
Where self expression is exactly what it sounds like.
With eye shadows,
P.S. We are about to close the doors to the Life Reentry Registration class. May you find your way there if it feels right for where you are in your life. REENTER HERE: https://lifereentry.com/life-reentry-class/