Christina Rasmussen

Five Cupcakes On a Tray

Be yourself. 

Be you, they say. 

Live your life however you want. 

But that is the thing. 

Who the heck are you? 

What kind of life do you want to live?

The old life is not ever coming back. I checked. 

A thousand times.

This is about the versions of the future you get to choose from. 

Often, we don’t even know there is a choice. 

Nobody told us. 

By the time we let ourselves believe that we have options, we have already missed our chance a few dozen times. 

Let me explain this a little more. 

Imagine someone walking up to you with 5 cupcakes on a tray, all different flavors. 

They offer you one. 

You ask if they have your favorite kind. 

And they say no, they don’t. 

What do you do next? 

Do you have one of the 5 cupcakes left on the tray?

Do you say thank you and have none? 

Or do you ask if the kitchen at the back would make you the kind you want? 

Oh I know, I know what you are thinking. 

Come on, Christina. Who asks for that? 

Well let me tell you, there are some people who do. 

And sometimes, the answer they get is, yes sure. 

What kind would you like? 

But let’s go back to the tray with the five cupcakes. 

Here’s what you didn’t know. 

The tray started out with 50 cupcakes of different kinds. 

The five left were just leftovers. 

Dark Chocolate Bacon. 

Sweet Potato Cider Cupcake, 

Licorice and Peppermint. 

And a milk chocolate avocado. 

You were getting ready to choose one of them. Or say no thank you. 

Weren’t you? 

Imagine now this was about your life choices. 

The Life Tray. 

Would you bother to find out if there are more options available to you? 

Would you even think it was possible? 

We live in a world that by the time the tray gets to us most of the things we wanted were taken by others. 

We see them walking around living the lives we wish we had. 

But what if this time, the tray comes, you smile and say: 

These look great but I would much rather have something else. 

Can you make a vanilla, cherry, and burnt marshmallow cupcake? 


Specific. Detailed. 

Crystal clear about the kind of cupcake you want. 

Honestly, it took me a while to find myself here. 

Or find her here. 

You see, it is no longer me who is showing up when the tray of cupcakes comes by. 

It is someone else. 

Someone I have never met before. 

She arrived a few days ago. 

And to my surprise. 

She came with her own cupcakes. 

Lemon cream flavor. 

Who knew? 

I certainly didn’t. 

Whoever you’ve been. Whoever you are. 

Be ready for who you could be. 

There is a version of you, you could have never imagined waiting her turn.


With a lot more than 5 cupcakes, 


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