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# Christina Rasmussen

Author, Speaker, Educator - Founder of the Life Reentry Institute

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- [I'm Back](https://christinarasmussen.com/2024/04/21/im-back/) - Today is my birthday and I find no better way to start off my 52nd year by writing to you. It has been so long since I last wrote. I have missed you. There wasn’t a day that went by without thinking about you and your life. I brought you with me the last two
- [Share Yourself](https://christinarasmussen.com/2024/04/30/share-yourself/) - The world loses part of its terror when we tell another person about the things that upset us. When we do that our world evolves. It changes into a more habitable form. Consider this: Every time you muster the courage to share your feelings with the right person, you extend the period you feel truly
- [I No Longer Want to Work Hard to Be Good](https://christinarasmussen.com/2024/05/07/i-no-longer-want-to-work-hard-to-be-good/) - Sometimes we wake up in the morning and we just want to rebel against everything we have ever been taught. Other times, we just put our heads down and do whatever we are expected to do. Most people feel trapped in a thousand ways. But somehow the invisibility of this modern-day trap moves us into
- [This is Your Play, You Get to Choose the Scenes of Your Life](https://christinarasmussen.com/2024/05/14/this-is-your-play-you-get-to-choose-the-scenes-of-your-life/) - I am feeling fired up. Ready to not only share the book but live it fully. In every way. With everyone. And in everything. What does that really mean, you might be asking. What does living the book look like? If you were able to look in every corner of your life which includes, conversations
- [Goosebumps](https://christinarasmussen.com/2024/05/21/goosebumps/) - Sometimes, a profound sense of self-awareness offers glimpses into your destiny and the path ahead. Your intuition, your gut feeling, may hint at what the future holds, but the full picture remains hidden in the present moment. Yet, you question the knowledge you possess about the future. You find it hard to trust it. You
- [Don't Tell Them What They Want To Hear](https://christinarasmussen.com/2024/06/06/dont-tell-them-what-they-want-to-hear/) - In a society where everyone may be concealing their genuine feelings, we either romanticize others and believe the superficial nature of our interactions, or we confront the truth about the camouflaged reality we are exposed to on a regular basis. The wall we frequently hear about that sits in front of others or even ourselves
- [20 Years Later](https://christinarasmussen.com/2024/06/18/20-years-later/) - It was a cold and snowy afternoon in 2003. I can still remember my black winter boots emerging from the snow as I was putting one foot in front of the other walking towards the doctor’s office with Bjarne. Our life was about to change forever. Although he was only 31, we were just about
- [Faith](https://christinarasmussen.com/2022/05/17/faith/) - It’s been a while, hasn’t it? When I stopped writing back in December I really did think it was only going to be for a short week. As I had never not written to you for the last ten years. But when the first Friday of 2022 arrived, the voice inside said something unexpected. It
- [The Unexpected Lessons of 2021](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/12/24/lessons-of-2021/) - It has been a year of many surprises. Both professionally and personally. My lessons are for my own life’s journey but if they can help you too, I will share them with you. Who I was when 2021 arrived is no longer here, but lessons don’t make our lives better, happier or easier. They make
- [The Petalling](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/12/17/the-petalling/) - If I had one wish for you, it would be to grant yourself permission to live the life of your choosing. To courageously understand the reasons behind your life’s choices to date, and allow for new choices to emerge that are generous towards you. These choices would exclude pleasing other people, considering everyone else's feelings
- [Your Messiest Drawer](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/12/10/your-messiest-drawer/) - Sometimes, change comes in ways you never expected. You feel a force pushing you to do something that is confusing at first. Trust it. It carries a message. The only way to know what the message is, is to take the action. And only then you will figure out what in the world is moving
- [The 500 Letters](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/12/03/the-500-letters/) - When I was young, my parents used to call me an open book. I used to share everything that was on my mind. But for the last decade or so, the real things that trouble me, or break my heart stay with me. You probably find it hard to believe but I share the most
- [Get A Hairbrush](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/11/26/hairbrush/) - Lately, I have found myself inside a new feeling. Almost as if things are finally making sense. I understand the hard things better and appreciate the easy things more. I taste loneliness but can sense the fullness of my life too. I respect the need for gratitude. The devastating but timely lateness of wisdom. If
- [Write Yourself Down](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/11/19/write-yourself-down/) - Do you know who you are? Like really know. And do you show that real self to others? So much so that everyone would feel like they knew you forever. Realer than the chairs, the tables, the roads. More real than anything else real. I have been asking myself lately if I know who I
- [The Good Place](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/11/12/the-good-place/) - There is this place in everyone’s life that feels good. When you are there, it is as if everything is just the way it is supposed to be. This place we all have visited. Some don’t remember ever visiting. Those who can’t remember, have experienced early loss. The kid mind can’t go that far back.
- [The Middle.](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/11/05/the-middle/) - When I realized I was never going to arrive anywhere, I suddenly arrived. That was it. My destination. Suddenly found. In the not arriving. It became apparent that each end of the road is nearly always a turning point. Another destination just pops up. We just keep traveling thinking we are going somewhere. But we
- [The Time Thieves](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/10/29/time-thieves/) - Could these letters I am writing to you every week, be my diary entries? I know. Just imagine for a second. If we could all look inside each other’s journals. All of a sudden the whole world would be revealed, no mysteries left to solve. No hidden agendas. No misunderstandings. No secrets. No Invisible Loss.
- [The Pretenders](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/10/22/the-pretenders/) - Did you know that one of the most authentic relationships of my life is with you? I sit here every week writing exactly what I want to say. There are no pretenses. No adjusting my words. I just tell you things as they are. As the years have gone by, I understood the importance of
- [Short and Sweet](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/10/15/short-and-sweet/) - This is a first. But I have been flying, traveling, experiencing, living so much that this letter did not get to be written today. Instead, I am sending you a short note to tell you to drop anything that is not important and go do something fun. I don’t care what it is. But don’t
- [Hidden Rooms](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/10/08/hidden-rooms/) - Oh the worlds we never see. Infinitely surprising. Devastatingly never ours. Some of them, impossibly foreign. Further than our physical bodies can get to. But also vaster than the confines of our minds. There is so much safety in staying inside the same world. But with so much unknown loss in it. Unknown because we
- [Five Cupcakes On a Tray](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/10/01/five-cupcakes/) - Be yourself. Be you, they say. Live your life however you want. But that is the thing. Who the heck are you? What kind of life do you want to live? The old life is not ever coming back. I checked. A thousand times. This is about the versions of the future you get to
- [The Partial Truth of Virtual Relationships](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/09/24/virtual-relationships/) - Every friend and every relative, lives a whole other life inside our minds. There, they occupy worlds that have nothing to do with reality. These worlds are not play pretend, or unreal. They just appear more real to us. They inhabit an intimate interaction with ourselves. We can hear their whispers. We ‘know’ their thoughts.
- [The Loss of Living A Singular Life](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/09/17/singular-life/) - Where should I start from? Where does the beginning sit in a new story? Is the beginning at the start of the new experience, or at the end of it. I have been away inside new adventures for the last few weeks. I swam in turquoise waters in Greece. I witnessed a rocket blasting off
- [Loyalty Is Rare](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/08/19/loyalty-is-rare/) - Heartbreak is tiring. Exhausting. Consuming. Deeply confusing. It is hard to understand. You will often wonder why certain things have to happen. Especially if you are a good person going about your day, expecting the best and doing your best. It will be the most heartbreaking for the good hearted ones. The lovers. The givers.
- [Living Out Loud At Long Last](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/08/13/loud-life/) - When you inject life in your world it bounces off on multiple surfaces at first. Remember if you are still in the Waiting Room and you invited life to come back, it will try to find you in the confined space. Sometimes we step out of the Waiting Room in quick bursts. On our way
- [Running Naked in The Streets](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/07/30/running-naked/) - It is a deliverance of self to break free from serving a life that doesn’t give us an inner autonomy. I recently experienced such a thing. I delivered myself to myself, finally. What that entails cannot be explained in simple terms. It is a form of redemption that can only reign after we overstay our
- [Oranges and Fried Eggs](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/08/06/oranges/) - In the last few months I experienced one of my most significant Life Reentries to date. I taught myself self care for the first time. It started with exercise, then it moved to food choices, to my work, my routine, and it landed me on my childhood dream. This journey had many blind spots and
- [The Brakeless Bike](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/07/23/brakeless-bike/) - Imagine that you had a bike with no brakes. You just used your feet when you had to slow it down. You never even questioned why your bike came without brakes, you just rode it. Figuring out along the way how to keep yourself safe. You lived your whole life with this bike and one
- [The 15 Year Walk](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/07/16/15-year-walk/) - A few weeks ago, I had a dream that when we die; we return to experience the exact life again. We meet the same people, make the same mistakes, occupy the same story. I put it aside, reflecting that it was a strange dream. Further attaching to my belief that If we do return, we
- [The Field of Ghostly Winds](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/07/09/ghostly-winds/) - I have been changing things up in my life lately and I was reminded of the extreme discomfort change brings along with it. It feels like you are standing in the middle of a field with high winds coming at you from all directions. The winds are like loud voices screaming at you to get
- [The First Scratch](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/07/02/first-scratch/) - Everyone says that love is the most important emotion of all. It has been documented forever. After all, literature and poetry over centuries captured the feeling of love. Like the most famous celebrity. The Queen of all emotions. But what if the most profound feeling of our existence is not love, but loss. And it
- [A Quick Stroll Along My 49 Year Old Life](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/06/25/quick-stroll/) - Today I decided to share a little more about my life. There are so many new readers who joined the Friday Letter Subscription that I think it's important to tell you about my journey here. My name is Christina Rasmussen and 49 years ago I was born in Greece in a small town called Volos.
- [The 5 Legged Chair of Joy](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/06/18/chair-of-joy/) - Happiness is personal. A journey, as unique as the way you look. As rare as a doppelganger, as surprising as a few people in the world that look like you. It is the same with happiness. We have very quirky ways of experiencing happiness. For instance, when I say I love the color of the
- [The Water Shoes](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/06/11/water-shoes/) - Did you know that when you choose a different life, it feels divergent? Unalike the one you are walking out from. Logically, this should not be a surprise. A different life should feel different. But as I stepped into a new chapter in my life this week I started to feel unfamiliar. Even my body
- [The Art of Answering Your What Ifs](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/06/03/art-of-answering/) - Sometimes the new life is hiding behind a tiny moment. Behind just one thought. If you could look inside your mind you would see two words connecting the old chapter with the new one. These words can be missed completely if we are not paying attention to our inner experience. It is almost like a
- [Grief's Monastery](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/05/28/griefs-monastery/) - There is a place deep inside grief that can hold us without pain. The deepest most hidden place of the grief experience is a seat of Trinity to witness life from. I was trying to explain this to someone this week. She saw me looking sad and struggled believing me when I said I am
- [Have I been Faithful To Myself?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/05/21/faithful-to-myself/) - I was interviewing Dr. Parker J. Palmer, an extraordinary poet, writer, change maker. And in the middle of the interview, he asked me if I was faithful to my gift. My eyes must have widened quite a bit. My brain repeated. Faithful to my gift? How would that look like? I thought about us in
- [The Two Moons](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/05/14/two-moons/) - It’s late Thursday evening as I am writing to you. And the dark of the night makes for a deeper connection between us. It’s almost as if we slightly step out of space so we are closer together. It will be morning when you are reading this letter, night when I am writing it, and
- [Something Is Coming](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/05/07/something-is-coming/) - I have always known when something was about to change in my life. Sometimes I would know it for years beforehand. I would tell people I know something is coming. Something is coming. The change itself was invisible. I felt the enormity of it. But there were no signs of what exactly was coming. Just
- [The Good Letter](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/04/16/the-good-letter/) - I have been working longer hours lately and today I didn’t get a chance to sit and write you a letter. You may think, but this is a letter isn’t it? It is but it's not the letter I was going to write. It is just a letter telling you that I ran out of
- [Safe Worlds](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/04/30/safe-worlds/) - I have a few favorite movies I watch over and over again. They are my safe worlds. I go to them when a day has been hard. I put them on and sit to watch as if for the very first time. My brain rests while entering a familiar world, witnessing someone else’s life. Crying
- [Don't You Give Up](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/04/23/dont-you-give-up/) - Sometimes it will feel as if nothing makes sense. Nothing at all. You can’t fathom why bad things happen to you. Even though you try. You did everything you could to change the course of your life. You ran when you were supposed to run. You climbed when the hill appeared in front of you.
- [Find Your Lava](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/04/02/find-your-lava/) - I have been seeing a therapist lately. We are trying to figure out how the heck did I change so much since the loss of my husband. Sometimes I wonder, did someone come in and replace me? I know it sounds crazy and of course nobody replaced me but it feels like someone else is
- [You Didn't Leave](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/04/09/you-didnt-leave/) - What if you were free. To be what you feel To scream out your name. And jump inside the pain Would you? Live in it. Be in it Without fright. Just you walking in pleight. With yourself in mind. Would you? Would you do it? If it was true To live not feeling blue To
- [Why Don't You Put Some Makeup On?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/03/26/makeup/) - I posted a video about the Life Reentry class on facebook the other day and a woman commented under it, why don’t you put some makeup on Christina? At first, I responded casually. I did have some makeup on, but it's been a long day of zoom calls and work. And then I started thinking
- [Endings](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/03/19/endings-2/) - It was not like any other day. Something was in the air. A heaviness, with no name. A knowing. A goodbye. An Ending. A full stop. And it was known. Nothing could prevent it. Nothing at all. It was coming. Like all endings do. The Ending arrived quietly. Almost like a whisper. “I am here,
- [The Forbidden Path](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/03/12/forbidden-path/) - I have been trying to write you this letter all day long. I have so much to tell you that my thoughts are competing for their spot. I have had a hard week. For many reasons. And I know you had one too. I feel like I am inside a maze. Lost. But here is
- [My Imaginary Friend](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/03/05/imaginary-friend/) - Before Bjarne passed I used to be very social. Big dinner parties at my house. Hanging out with many friends. Phone calls for lengthy conversations. I always had friends to talk to. But after the devastation of losing him I experienced what I called a duality. My inner world changed so dramatically and my outer
- [Growing Up in One Afternoon](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/02/26/one-afternoon/) - Sometimes you have to grow up in one afternoon. Maybe in an hour. 5 minutes, even. I wonder why we are not given longer. Why does it have to be almost instant. On the spot. Nailing us to the wall. What am I talking about? Conversations, interactions, experiences that were unexpected and gruesome. Someone saying
- [Mother Nature's Icy Castles](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/02/19/icy-castles/) - When Mother Nature knocks on your door, you get down on your knees and pray. You pray for your family, your self, your neighbors, the people around you. You lose all safety, in an instant. You lose the ground you have been on. The physical world around you becomes a threat, an enemy and you
- [Am I Living The Right Life?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/02/12/am-i-living-the-right-life/) - What would it take to live the life of your choosing. Not of your dreams, even. But of your choice. And then, when you dare make a different choice, do you wonder if you made the right one? What if the new choice is a choice you can’t take back. Something you can’t un-choose. I
- [Growing Older](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/02/05/growing-older/) - Today is Eric’s 50th birthday. My second husband’s birthday. This morning I woke up grateful for him being alive. Breathing. Moving. Being here to celebrate his 50th year. For those who don’t know my story, my first husband died when he was 35. Eric’s first wife also died at 35. For us, getting to 50
- [Three Seconds of Courage](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/01/29/three-seconds/) - Birds are brave. Not because they fly too high, but because they fly too close. Too close to our homes and us. In the last few days I have had so many birds get close to my windows. They fly, they stay for a few seconds and then they fly away. I realized that this
- [Don't Label How You Feel With Basic Words](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/01/22/basic-words/) - Lately, it feels like every day introduces us to a new intense feeling, doesn't it? One of the reasons why everything feels more intense than what intensity normally feels like, is because we are experiencing feelings we haven’t felt before. There is a spectrum of emotions inside sadness. And a spectrum of emotions inside joy.
- [The Big Rock Between Us](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/01/15/rock-between-us/) - We are so alone. Aren’t we? Inside the chaos, the uncertainty. The longing. We find ourselves in a crowd of strangers. Especially now. Right in the midst of much friction. Alternate realities within that same relationship, of mothers and fathers. Sisters and brothers. Husbands and wives. Friends for decades before, under so many moons, find
- [Sitting With You](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/01/08/sitting-with-you/) - I have to be honest. It is a hard day to write. I am sitting here looking for the words and the events of the last couple of days are interfering with my thoughts. So, just like always, I am telling you what’s here, what wants to be written. The chaos of our country feels
- [The Small But Life Changing Gifts of 2021](https://christinarasmussen.com/2021/01/01/gifts-of-2021/) - I know this last year felt like a rollercoaster that kept dropping you. With no bottom. An indefinite drop. Your head couldn’t catch up. Your mind couldn’t process it. And your heart kept trying to mend itself, inside a thousand breaks. No mending possible. No chance at a breather. Today the calendar says it's a
- [My Own Story of 2020](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/12/25/story-of-2020/) - “We tell ourselves stories in order to live” my favorite author Joan Didion often reminds me. As I am putting words on paper for the final letter of 2020 I am thinking about the story I want to tell. And what a better day to tell it, on December 25th. It matches the non-traditional clothes
- [Dating The Holiday Season Once Again](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/12/18/dating-the-holiday/) - It is ok if some things that are meant to be easy, feel hard to do. Don’t compare yourself to others. If something feels hard, it is hard. Someone else’s experience with it, can’t change yours. This goes for everything. Including grief. Including Christmas. The Holiday Season makes some people happy and others sad. Hearing
- [It Found You Crying in Front of the TV](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/12/11/found-you-crying/) - I don’t know how it comes back, but it does. It comes knocking on your door. Even though you can barely notice it at first. I am talking about the feeling of wanting to live again. I know you never thought it would come back. You didn’t believe it could find you. But it did.
- [The Inheritance](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/12/04/the-inheritance/) - I have been more emotional lately. I know you have too. There is something in the air. Isn’t there? Something ungraspable. Unknowable. Quite unspoken. Even though we do speak of it. I see it in people’s eyes. Heaviness sitting inside emptiness. How do we even begin to understand it? A burden like no other. It
- [Millions of Souls Are Thinking of You](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/11/27/thinking-of-you/) - I am writing to you late on Thanksgiving evening, and I can’t stop thinking of you. I want to know about your day. Were you on your own? Did you have to cook a meal for one? I tried to guess the number of people who were not able to be with their families, and
- [A New Fork in The Road](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/11/20/new-road/) - Today, I was reminded of the joy of a new adventure. The unknown path ahead. The fork in the road. Oh I felt young again. I rejoiced. I was nauseous just before it. My brain casting a spell of darkness. And yet, when I leaped inside the unknown I felt elation. The kind I had
- [My Hard Won Truths](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/11/13/hard-won-truths/) - Lately the whole world has been suffering a lot more than usual. So today I decided to share with you my very own hard won truths that are helping me through this difficult time. Of course it doesn’t mean that I am not impacted by current events, it just means that I am able to
- [Soothe What Needs Soothing](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/11/06/soothing/) - No matter where you live, or the kind of life you have. This week is hard on everyone. People with easy or hard lives. Optimists and pessimists. Wealthy or poor. Every race and ethnicity. When the ship we are all in, feels lost in the ocean we have a sinking feeling. The longer it takes
- [Changing Chairs](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/10/30/changing-chairs/) - I always write this letter from inside my own life. From day one I have promised myself to sit and write it no matter what is taking place, for me. There have been times (not often) when a heartbreaking moment happens on the same day as this letter has to be written and I feel
- [The Floorless Life](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/10/23/floorless-life/) - Once upon a time, a day came that took everything from you. And you crumbled at the nothingness. And you stepped inside of it looking to find something, anything to hold on to. But there was nothing. Nowhere to even put your knees on, so you could kneel and pray. You searched where you thought
- [The Life Lifter](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/10/16/the-life-lifter/) - Sometimes I feel like I can see you in your home, in your life, in your pain. And the last thing you need is someone to come and tell you what to do, inspire you to change your life. You are tired. Fed up. Hurt. You can’t even think about your day without anxiety. You
- [Your Pen Pal](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/10/09/your-pen-pal/) - It’s late Thursday night, writing this letter to you. If you live in the US you will get it first thing Friday morning. With your cup of coffee or tea. If you are in Australia or New Zealand, it will be late at night. And if you are in the UK or Europe mid afternoon,
- [The Mid Size Punch](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/10/02/mid-size-punch/) - Sometimes, things come and hit you from out of nowhere. It is like a punch in the dark. A spit even. Yes it feels like you are being spat on sometimes, doesn’t it? And you don’t know why. You were not even in a battle. Not in the ring. Lights were out. You were not
- [The Weathered House](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/09/18/weathered-house/) - I realized that my aging is more physically evident lately. It is like a beautiful weathered house on the water. It looks different when it’s been there a lifetime vs when it's brand new. Even if the owners took care of it in every way, the many gatherings, celebrations, transitions and of course the ocean
- [Waving At You From the House Across the Street](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/09/04/house-across-the-street/) - I wasn’t planning on it but I just spent a whole week truly being myself. I didn’t care about pleasing anyone. Not even one. I said whatever was on my mind. I was myself 100%. Full on. And then it hit me. I realized that when you show up fully, with no guilt, no shame,
- [You Have To Slow Down When You Are Sad](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/08/28/slow-down/) - Why is it so darn hard to stop and tend to our sorrow during a hard season? And why does it feel so unnatural to be sad? Why isn’t our society able to help us heal? No wonder we find it difficult to take time off work, or let go of our responsibilities. It is
- [A New Chapter Begins](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/08/21/new-chapter/) - Lately, I realized that I will never stop writing about longing and loss. I see everything from a transient perspective. I am in love with the moment, because it is so fleeting. I see everything from the end. When I witness people in the later stage of life, I see the goodbyes they had to
- [How Would I Live My Life If I Experienced Loss When I was Older?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/08/14/experienced-loss-older/) - The other day, someone asked me something important. She said…”Christina, do you have any words for those of us who started this journey not quite as young as yourself. Those of us, who may only have 10 or less years to live. If I was younger, I think I would have more hope to be
- [We Do What We Can With What We Have](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/08/07/what-we-can/) - Today’s letter was not coming. A day such as this, had never happened before. For the last 520 Fridays, every week, without a miss, a letter would always come through for you. Today was different. It was as if it was trying to get me to notice the silence. The quiet. I'm sitting here just
- [How To Find Love In Quarantine?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/07/31/love-in-quarantine/) - How do we find love while in quarantine? While in isolation. What happens to those who have yet to meet their first or second soulmates. They dreamed of meeting them at the library, at the bookstore, at the cafe, at the pub. At conferences, at work. They never dreamed of meeting them at home. What
- [The Losing of Oneself.](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/07/24/losing-oneself/) - I think it's nostalgia. That sweet feeling made out of longing. Remembering the days at the beach, in our youthfulness. Laughter echoing in the sand, staying present in everything. The younger we were, the less real the past was. The less needy we were of the future. We just naturally stayed in the moment, without
- [14 Years Later. What an honor it's been.](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/07/17/14-years-later/) - There are so many things to say about what it feels like 14 years after his loss. When it comes to loss of this kind, time is confusing. It’s almost as if his passing shoved me out of my body too. It just took me out of the direct experience of living. It placed me
- [The Family Makers](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/07/10/the-family-makers/) - Lately, it has felt as if we have all died and went to some kind of afterlife, where we are all stuck at home. Alone. This type of interruption of life, seems almost unearthly. We can’t breathe the air. We can’t hug people. We can’t travel. We have postponed relationships. Dreams. Building new houses. Moving.
- [The Garden](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/07/03/the-garden/) - When the world threw weeds at you, You started planting roses. When the people told you it’s all over, You started your garden. You never planted anything before, but you knew you had to. You started with new soil. Water. And some seeds. Kneeling down, clipping and cutting the weeds, knowing it was the only
- [You Are So Here For It](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/06/26/you-are-so-here-for-it/) - If there is one thing I want you to know during these uncertain times is that no matter what happens, this is your life. I have really thought about this a lot during the last few months. What if someone I love dies? What if I get really sick from this virus? What if. One
- [Walking Across The Rooftops](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/06/19/walking-across-the-rooftops/) - I have missed having the freedom to get on a plane to go to the ocean. Hike in my favorite trails in Sedona. Visit my dad in Greece for his 80th birthday last weekend. I was supposed to be there. It reminds me of how life used to be before we had cars and planes.
- [The Forest](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/06/12/the-forest/) - I was dreaming last night that I was writing to you. I could see the words, the sentences being written. But, I woke up this morning and I could not remember what I wrote to you. I know it had to do with how our world is right now. It had to do with giving
- [The Morning's Blanket](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/06/05/the-mornings-blanket/) - I wake around 5:30am every morning. Sometimes earlier. It feels calm that early. As if nothing is wrong. Silence feels like a blanket. As time goes by, I start hearing the birds chirping. We have some Blue Jays, Cardinals, and Red-Bellied Woodpeckers in our backyard. They sing to each other every morning as if nothing
- [Is this You?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/05/29/is-this-you/) - When we were born, we should have been taught about ourselves. Our parents should have asked ‘who are you?’ before they asked, “is this your mommy?” Or ‘is this your daddy?” It should have been ‘is this you?’ while placing us in front of a mirror. Then as our bodies grew just a little, they
- [The Amateurs of Grief](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/05/22/amateurs-of-grief/) - I am finally understanding why blanket statements such as grief lasts forever are hurtful. These statements hijack the truth of what it really means to grieve. What really happens to us when we grieve for years? What changes in our brain? In our immune system. In our heart. Who do we become? When amateurs say
- [The Unbridging](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/05/15/the-unbridging/) - I wonder, are we born people pleasers? Or do we become them later on, trying to avoid pain. Pain of any kind. Disappointment. Being ignored by a friend. Maybe we sacrifice our lives so we can be seen for brief moments. When we bend over backwards for someone who doesn’t really care for us. We
- [The Cast Iron Plate](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/05/08/cast-iron-plate/) - I struggle when people unexpectedly put things on my plate. Balancing my own daily chores is more than enough. When one more thing is added to that plate, it can derail me. It can even take me down to a dark world. I used to judge myself when I felt like I could not handle
- [If Only We Were Told From The Start That We Were Imperfect](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/05/01/if-only-imperfect/) - If only we were told from the start that we were imperfect. That we could not strike the right cord unless we tried many times. If only we knew that we were made unevenly. With brush strokes that were coming from darkness, in the middle of empty space. If only we knew we were never
- [Denial Is A Stage of Grief, Didn't You Know?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/04/24/denial-stage-grief/) - Oh, dear world. I know you are crying. I know you are suffering. I know you are feeling stuck. Imprisoned. Helpless. During this virus outbreak. I know. But don’t doubt it’s reality just so you can pause on the crying. Don’t listen to people saying it’s not bad enough. Tell them. Tell them. They are
- [The Good, the Bad and The Unexpected of Our Times](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/04/17/the-good-the-bad-and-the-unexpected-of-our-times/) - In many ways, I feel like I can see your everyday life even more clearly than before. It is almost as if I have a window in your living room and you have a window in mine. We are virtual roommates and the whole world is rooming together. Living in unison. And even though we
- [The Couch Is Not As Safe As It Seems](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/04/10/the-couch-is-not-as-safe-as-it-seems/) - Something has been on my mind for a few days now. I know you have seen the comments made on social media about how we should be grateful that we are only being asked to stay at home, instead of fighting the war. Well, these kinds of statements are very dangerous to our mental health.
- [Where We really Are, Is Inside The Waiting Room](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/04/03/where-we-really-are-is-inside-the-waiting-room/) - It was fall 2007, in Massachusetts, the leaves were starting to change, and everything was looking almost eternal. Nearly perfect. It was then, when I took on a full time job after the loss of my 35 year old husband making sure I could pay my bills, take care of my kids. Building a new
- [We Live In A Kind World](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/03/27/we-live-in-a-kind-world/) - There will be arguments. Disagreements. Misunderstandings. And above all, loss of friendships and relationships during this time. You will say angry things to people you love. And they will do the same. But it is the fear and grief that is really speaking. There will be lots of swearing. Aggression. Impatience. And lots of self
- [We Already Know How To Eat, Sleep And Be Alone](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/03/20/we-already-know-how-to-eat-sleep-and-be-alone/) - I have to be honest. When self isolating started to take place, it kind of felt a little familiar. But it took me a few days to figure it out. You see, self isolation is already a familiar experience to people who have already gone through losses such as death, divorce, job loss, abuse and
- [The Hugs From Your Friends Will Come Back](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/03/13/the-hugs-from-your-friends-will-come-back/) - I know you are sitting alone at home every night, afraid. The few places outside of the safety of your home you relied on after your loss to begin again are closing their doors. Your local coffee shop where you made small talk with the person behind the counter each morning is more distant and
- [Many Stories, Many Homes.](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/03/06/many-stories-many-homes/) - You start out with one small home. There, you put the toughest memory of your life. Your saddest story. The one thing you cry about in bed at night. You visit it daily. You bring it out when you can. You share it with others. And then one day, something else happens in your life.
- [Hanging Upside Down in The Middle of Nowhere](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/02/28/60038/) - What if I told you that the journey you are on is so long that you can’t see the end of the tunnel. That every day will feel like eternity, and every step is so small that you can’t tell if you are healing or not. Then what if I said to you that some
- [The Bag Carrier](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/02/21/the-bag-carrier/) - They will grab your arm as you are walking down the street minding your own business. They will yank it a little, not too much at first. When you don’t stop walking, they will jump in front of you loudly speaking. Forcing you to stop and listen to their expectations of you. You see, they
- [The Deep Sound of Life After Loss](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/02/14/the-deep-sound-of-life-after-loss/) - I wish I could play the piano. If I did I would find a special key for rejection. And it would sound like a drumming sound. Piercing through every layer of my heart. It would be probing. And lengthy. It would allow the ears to also know how it feels to be turned down. I
- [The Imperfect Self During And After Loss](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/02/07/the-imperfect-self-during-and-after-loss/) - Who you become while you suffer a loss, is imperfect. The personality that comes through when you are grieving will make plenty of mistakes. It will have an ego. A brutality in your words. A mean streak in your exchanges. A hatred of your circumstances. A self dance that hurts in every move. It is
- [Let's Make Up A Brand New Life](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/01/31/lets-make-up-a-brand-new-life/) - Sometimes, witnessing everyone else’s life can confuse the witnessing of our own. It can distort our view of our wants and needs. Observing someone else’s ways can influence ours. This can be rather alarming, especially when we are not even aware that we have grandfathered someone else’s choices. How did that happen? Here is how.
- [Walking Around With Miles Of Canyon](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/01/24/walking-around-with-miles-of-canyon/) - I don’t think others know. They can’t see the depth. The vastness. It is the shock we feel when we visit the Grand Canyon for the first time. You can’t imagine it unless you see it. Grief is the same way. Words. Photos. Can’t even begin to describe how big it is. You and I
- [Grief's Tomorrowland](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/01/17/griefs-tomorrowland/) - It is the future that we are afraid of the most, when someone we love dies. We are afraid of tomorrow. Tomorrow becomes the most scary monster of all. You see, grief owns a big mansion inside your tomorrow. She has three pool houses. A few gardeners, boats and fancy cars. And is sending you
- [How To Cross The Street In 2020 And Other Lessons](https://christinarasmussen.com/2020/01/01/how-to-cross-the-street-in-2020-and-other-lessons/) - I know you want to believe in a better decade. One that won’t break your heart. One that will only bring you joy and love. One that will redefine you. Bring you good people who understand you. Possibly a new love or two. Money. Luck. And less grief. I want all of this too. But
- [My Evening With Robert Redford](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/12/27/my-evening-with-robert-redford/) - The ice-cold evening froze my feet as I was making my way to my 7:00pm appointment. The grass was stiffened with snow bursts on it. It was chilly. A December night that sounded quiet as I walked from my hotel room to the spa within the property. We had never been to Santa Fe New
- [The Visit on December 25th](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/12/20/the-visit-on-december-25th/) - I am afraid of a thousand things. Afraid of losing love. More people. Moments that will never come back. Experiences that I will never have again. I grieve a thousand things every day. My wiser self wants to go back in time and witness everything from this self. The me that is here now. I
- [Nobody Said Anything About The Physical Pain Of Grief](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/12/13/nobody-said-anything-about-the-physical-pain-of-grief/) - Nobody ever said anything about the physical pain of grief. The nausea. The breathlessness. The stiffness of the body. The ache at the back of the neck. The panic attacks that feel like a heart attack. The insomnia. The cold hands. The dizziness. For me, grief was always very physical. And it was the biggest
- [Go Back To The Battleground To Save Your Life](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/12/06/go-back-to-the-battleground-to-save-your-life/) - I had a mammogram scheduled this week, and I wasn’t just dreading it. I was petrified of it. And this was not the only time I felt terror for a simple test. I spent months coughing over the summer and I avoided every X ray I was offered. You see, when you spend years as
- [A Melody And Not A Jingle](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/11/28/a-melody-and-not-a-jingle/) - It’s the smell of food being made. The lights on the decorated trees. All, reminders of a life. That is no longer ours. The ghost life. On days such as today, we get thrown into a life that no longer exists for us, but we are forced to see it on others. People who have
- [Will You Come And Sit With Me?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/11/22/will-you-come-and-sit-with-me/) - It’s heavy in there, isn’t it? It is as if you are carrying a whole arena. One, no one can see. No witness to it. Even you, you are blinded to your own hurt. The heaviness, steals the words you wish you could utter. There is something about the weight of it, that can mask
- [Catch Me If You Can](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/11/15/catch-me-if-you-can/) - I was trying to explain how I feel to someone new in my life. She seemed lost. I could see it in her eyes, she just stared at me in silence. She was struggling. Trying to understand me. Attempting to respond with the right words. She was failing, for me and for her. And it
- [The Field Amidst The Two Houses: A Short Story](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/11/08/the-field-amidst-the-two-houses-a-short-story/) - And then there is this knowing that affairs, even the love kind, are not blameless. They foil with the future the way God quickens our destiny without caution, just like the rain dawns in the midst of a summer’s day dampening the exposed ground. At the cottage down the hill a wasted senile man is
- [I Would Remember](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/11/01/i-would-remember/) - When all is said and done I would remember the snow outside the doctor’s office. The unknowingness in my children’s lives. The struggle to be inside a new chapter after. I would remember the stars. The lake. Loneliness on the deck. The decade that was born from the grief. My dogs. The girls growing and
- [You Can Call Me Georgia](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/10/25/you-can-call-me-georgia/) - Something magical happens when you stop caring about what others think of you. You start to taste a level of freedom that questions all of your past decisions. It changes your interactions with people. Your conversations with your boss. Your friends. The whole ecosystem around you. The other day, I met someone ‘important.’ Semi famous.
- [The Life After Loss Kidnapper](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/10/18/the-life-after-loss-kidnapper/) - She resides inside new love. She makes her home within a new memory. She keeps you up at night after a first date. And she whispers words of utter destruction. Especially after laughter. After fun. Her name is guilt. And she ain’t going anywhere anytime soon. Or so she thinks. Her hands have hooks inside
- [The Long Way Home](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/10/11/the-long-way-home/) - It has taken me over 13 years to feel a longer lasting sense of happiness. You might want to yell out but Christina, that’s too long of a journey. And I will say that is the good side of life after loss. Not many of us ever make it back to a happy life. You
- [Change Does Not Feel Like Breaking Bread](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/02/15/change-breaking-bread/) - Change does not feel like breaking bread. Nope. It does not feel like chopping wood either. It is not like swimming. Or running. Or even climbing. Nope none of these. However hard some of them are. Change is so much harder. It feels like learning to walk on water. Learning to fly without wings. It
- [Is Your Sadness Called Eiffel or Ocean?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/02/22/is-your-sadness-called-eiffel-or-ocean/) - I realized lately that we have two different types of sadness. Both are hard. But one of them is deeply hidden. Even for the smartest, most aware and strong people. I guess, especially for them. And because of that, it is the most dangerous one. Finding the source of this kind of sadness can be
- [An Old Bag That Was Left In The Attic](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/03/08/an-old-bag-that-was-left-in-the-attic/) - Lately I have been loving life more. I am putting my arms around her, every second of the day. I tell her about my feelings. And never let go. I haven’t felt like this since 2003. Oh I know. I know, it’s been a while. It’s been since the week he was diagnosed. I stopped
- [Live. Life. Here. Now. Repeat.](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/03/15/live-life-here-now-repeat/) - I have spent so many years thinking about loss and trying to get back to life that I never really thought about my own mortality. I know it’s strange. Almost comical. One would think that I would be thinking about it all the time. After all, I write about life and death. Of course my
- [Read This, Especially If You Are At The Hospital](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/03/22/read-this-especially-if-you-are-at-the-hospital/) - It was late summer, early fall in 2011. It was about 6:00 am in the morning and there was a really big storm passing the Boston area. Thunder and lighting could be heard throughout the night. I was drifting in and out of sleep when all of a sudden, the room started to spin. I
- [It Took Me 3,652 Days to Find My Own Happiness](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/03/29/it-took-me-3652-days-to-find-my-own-happiness/) - I don’t know exactly when it started to happen. But there was a moment in time when things shifted towards more happiness than hopelessness. More joy than resistance. More cheer than angst. More present than past. But It took me a decade to get there. Yes ten whole years. That’s 3,652 days. That’s 87,658 hours.
- [I Am Starting To Like Myself...](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/04/12/i-am-starting-to-like-myself/) - Sometimes I feel like I don’t have it in me. To move fast. To say much. To speak in front of others. To provide. To create. To become every day someone new. We are being asked to do so much. It feels very machinery. Robotic with an AI brain. Almost like a factory of the
- [Never Move On From Love](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/04/05/never-move-on-from-love/) - Someone said to me the other day. Christina, you must have not moved on. You are still writing about your loss. I have to tell you my first response was to shake my head and dismiss it. As it is such an untruth. But soon after, I realized how unfair it is to dismiss it,
- [The Stagers](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/04/19/the-stagers/) - I didn’t know what to expect when two big SUVs pulled in my driveway and 4 women jumped out with bedding, towels and pillows, flowers and pictures. They all smiled at me and said we are here to get your house ready to sell. This was part of our realtor Dana's complimentary services for her
- [1000 Steps and Counting](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/05/03/1000-steps-and-counting/) - No wonder nobody wants to change their life, especially the big things. They require a thousand steps minimum. I am in the midst of selling my house, and it feels like the list of things to do is never ending. Which may actually be a good thing if you think about it. You see when
- [The Stand In](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/04/26/the-stand-in/) - It feels as if all of a sudden, nothing is significant. Aside from the people in my life. When I first started to feel this feeling a few weeks ago, it worried me. This new feeling was destroying my world. It was as if I was no longer me. I stopped caring. Whether I would
- [Create A New Chosen Reality For Yourself](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/06/14/create-a-new-chosen-reality-for-yourself/) - I am not going to lie, I am tired. Moving from one reality to another requires your brain to be going into manual gear 24/7. Nothing is familiar. Everything is new. Even when you go to the bathroom in the middle of the night you have to really wake yourself up to find it. No
- [Find A Way To Write From The Moon](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/07/05/you-find-a-way-to-write-from-the-moon/) - I know this letter matters. To the person who reads it while sitting alone on the floor. In bed. Standing in front of the kitchen sink. Feeling brutally unseen. Stuck in a timeless non-validating nature of their life. I write this for you. I don’t really care for the person who has been loved by
- [You Can Escape Every Prison](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/08/09/you-can-escape-every-prison/) - I wish we could all run away. Free. From everything. When I think of that, I imagine valleys with green grass. Sun shining. And us, running. With our arms extended out our sides. Like we did when we were kids. When we tasted the freedom we can’t remember. But our souls have never forgotten. This
- [This Is Not About A Friday Night Drink With A Complete Stranger](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/08/23/this-is-not-about-a-friday-night-drink-with-a-complete-stranger/) - I haven’t written much about dating after loss. Not because I don’t have a lot to say, but because my conversation with you has always been deeper. More about the complexity of our thoughts and our new identities. But maybe, we can have a deep conversation about dating also. And maybe, it’s necessary that dating
- [The 13 Year Journey To Blue Waters](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/07/19/the-13-year-journey-to-blue-waters/) - I love people more now than I did before he died. I love people with nothing. People who lost everything. This Sunday it will be Bjarne’s 13 year death anniversary. I have spent the last 13 years trying to love myself again. It was harder than expected. At first I had to start loving others
- [All The Things That Were Meant To Be](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/08/16/all-the-things-that-were-meant-to-be/) - I have a very specific vision of myself. Quietly residing inside my mind. Comparing itself with the current reality I live in, every day. It narrates all day long. And it keeps pointing me in her direction. It used to sound like a broken record. I would ignore it, until recently. I realized it was
- [When Nobody Was Watching](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/09/13/when-nobody-was-watching/) - The most heartbreaking moments of our lives happen when nobody is watching. Nobody sees us, then. These moments are parts of the larger heartbreak. The whispers of the loud pain. The experiences we have because of a bigger tragedy. I want to take you to one of mine. So then you can take others inside
- [You Find Yourself Standing In Front Of A Crossroad](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/09/20/you-find-yourself-standing-in-front-of-a-crossroad/) - After a loss, you find yourself standing in front of a crossroad. You can’t decide whether to go left or right. It feels like your feet can’t move. You second guess yourself. You ask everyone who is walking by which way they think you should go. Some, tell you go left. Others tell you go
- [Once Upon A Time, A Day Came That Took Everything From You](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/08/30/once-upon-a-time-a-day-came-that-took-everything-from-you/) - Once upon a time, a day came that took everything from you. And you crumbled at the nothingness. You stepped inside of it looking to find something to hold on to. But there was nothing. Nothing to even put your knees on, so you could kneel and pray. You searched where you thought the floor
- [I Wish Time Never Ran Out](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/10/04/i-wish-time-never-ran-out/) - I wish I could play music. Sing like an Opera singer. Write as if I have lived many lives. I wish doors opened for me. I wish I was lucky. And much younger when I got my act together. Smarter. Good at math. And I could live long enough to see earth from space. I
- [Without Roller Skates](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/09/27/without-roller-skates/) - Life is prickly. That is where all the stories we tell ourselves come from. The prickly things. We tell ourselves so many things after we feel pain. I caught myself doing that, last night. It was about someone who wasn’t getting pricked as much as me. And I noticed my inner story start. “Some people
- [Looking For Daisies](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/09/06/looking-for-daisies/) - How do you find a way to live life on your terms? How do you shed the armor of pretences? The manners you have been taught since you can remember. How do you find your way inside your own dreams vs the ones you have been shown? The ones that played on television. The wants
- [On Vacation In The UK](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/08/02/on-vacation-in-the-uk/) - I am in the UK on vacation with my family so there won’t be a letter today but just a short message to say have a great week and be good to yourself. And...I will leave you with a short excerpt of my latest book Where Did You Go? Just in case it hasn’t found its
- [Grief's Gravity](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/07/26/griefs-gravity/) - The more awakened you are, the more lonely you feel. And since grief awakens us, it becomes a lonely experience by default. The key is to continue to wake up regardless of the isolation you feel. Regardless of the radical self you are becoming. Yes, radical. New and different from the usual. When one awakens,
- [I Am The Girl Who Was Always Behind](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/07/12/i-am-the-girl-who-was-always-behind/) - I look for signs of my destiny in my childhood sometimes. I can’t find any. Not even a small tiny memory that could indicate the future. “You must have always been a writer,” people say to me. And the answer is always, no. Not only was I not a writer, I didn’t even learn to
- [On My Way](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/06/07/on-my-way/) - I have been planning for this day for months and it is here. We are on our way from California to Austin, Texas with our dogs, kids and a couple of pillows for the road. We said goodbye to our home and I have to tell you it felt like I was saying goodbye to
- [The Three Green Buckets](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/06/21/the-three-green-buckets/) - It is one of the hardest things to do. It took me three years to do it. If it wasn’t for my moving from my house at the time, it may have taken me a lot longer or maybe never. How do we let go of all the personal belongings and clothing of our loved
- [Slowing Down Is A Prayer](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/05/31/slowing-down-is-a-prayer/) - Something happens when we find it in our heart to slow down. The right energy catches up with us. Maybe the saying ‘go slow to go fast’ is true. Maybe speed is not human. Maybe it’s the opposite of happiness. A synonym for darkness. Maybe learning how to go fast is easier than learning how
- [The Fast Car Called Grief](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/05/24/the-fast-car-called-grief/) - What started as a new direction towards a better every day life for myself has brought in a completely different identity. I went from driving as fast as I could go to moving almost backwards. Stopping a fast car is one of the most vulnerable and courageous things we could do. Why? Because we have
- [No More Dirt Roads](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/05/17/no-more-dirt-roads/) - When someone who has climbed the biggest mountains dies, I can feel the blood in my veins take a pause. When the heart of a warrior stops beating it is felt in us all. This week Doris Day died. I hope she enjoyed her wins and her accomplishments. Because one day this life is over
- [The Small Bathroom Window](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/05/10/the-small-bathroom-window/) - I changed these last few weeks. And it hurt. It felt as if my skin stretched beyond what it could. Change is like another person is trying to come through you and it is not as natural as birth. It feels wrong. Your whole body is screaming, no more change. No more walking on the
- [A Glass Of Malbec And A Piece Of Cheese In My Hand](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/06/28/a-glass-of-malbec-and-a-piece-of-cheese-in-my-hand/) - Last night I cooked a meal with my girls. We did the whole recipe. You know, found a recipe, went to the grocery store, got all the ingredients and then spent hours cooking and baking. I also got myself a glass of wine while I was cooking. Had a piece of cheese. And it hit
- [You Will Always Be Alive](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/03/01/you-will-always-be-alive/) - You may ask What does grief have to do with physics? What does it have to do with science? I mean, come on Christina. My heart is broken. Shattered. And you are talking about particles and atoms. Other dimensions. The Universe. Have you lost your mind? What about the real things? What about the
- [What's Your Song?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/03/16/whats-your-song/) - You have to be willing to break into a song while in your worst day. That’s right. Start singing while you are on the floor sobbing. (Click to Tweet!) It’s ugly looking. It feels messy. It might even make you feel nauseous. You may feel like you are out of control. But something will happen
- [Life, Call Me By Your Name](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/03/23/life-call-me-by-your-name/) - Oh life. You give. You take. You teach. You scold. You love. You are harder than easier. Tougher than gentler. Stranger than logical. Routine is just an illusion isn’t it? There is no normal. No certain. No guarantees. Just gruesome harshness in between extraordinary beauty. Dreams amongst nightmares. Day and night. Love and loss. I
- [Ridiculously Afraid](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/03/30/ridiculously-afraid/) - I didn’t know that I had to become courageous... forever... after loss. I mistakenly believed that being courageous was only necessary for a couple of years. Maybe three. But every decision and new thought after loss demanded courage. Everything had a dose of fear. I patiently waited for that to change. I thought to myself, the
- [The Visit](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/04/06/the-visit/) - It is said that grief lasts forever. In a way it does. It lives inside of you for decades. Silenced by life, awakened by memories. The mind has the ability to bring someone back to life and make them timeless. Immortal. And so it is for me and my girls in our visit to Denmark
- [Take a Chance](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/04/13/take-a-chance/) - “Trust me.” I heard the most faint whisper say. “It’s going to be ok. Do it.” “Do what?” I responded. “Take a chance.” the whisper said. “On yourself.” The whisper continued as if it knew my most private thoughts. As if it lived inside my mind, in between the struggle. The doubts. The worry. “But
- [The Treasure Chest](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/04/20/the-treasure-chest/) - A friend asked me the other day. Do I still feel grief when I write these letters to you. And I said yes I feel it. But not in the way most people think. I feel loss deeply. But not just for one person, experience, moment. But many. I write from this infinite place of
- [We Need More Than Love](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/04/27/need-just-loved-listened-loss/) - It is both simple and the most complex thing in the whole wide world. The weakest and the strongest. I am talking about how we have to be after loss. We are asked to be vulnerable and at the same time stoic to get through our day to day. Most people find their way to
- [The Good and the Bad of Life After Loss](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/05/04/good-bad-life-loss/) - After walking next to so many of you living life after loss, I witnessed some tough truths. Here is what I learned from you and from my own journey. You will feel lonely even when you are with others. You will question your values, beliefs and all the things your parents taught you. You will
- [What Is Your Big Decision After Loss?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/05/11/big-decision-loss/) - There is so much loss in making big decisions. Most of them include saying goodbye to something you have done for a long time. An experience your brain is used to having. A way of life you have known. An expression of self. Making a big decision requires you to feel loss. And this is
- [I Hid So Well, I Didn't Know I Was Hiding](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/05/18/hid-well-didnt-know-hiding/) - I hide inside moments. I literally hide there. I am so afraid of change. Whenever something new is on its way to me, I hide inside time. Do you know why I created the Life Reentry® work? Because I needed it to get myself out of all the hiding I was doing. I am the
- [What If I Can](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/06/01/what-if-i-can/) - My mind today is everywhere. Its raising. It’s quiet. Then its loud. Then it’s scared. It’s scared. A lot. So many of you travelled to be here with me for our Life Reentry weekend. And I want to give you the moon. The stars. The whole galaxy. Everything. Everything I am. And I will. My
- [Life After Loss Spins You Around Like a Tornado](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/06/29/life-loss-spins-around-like-tornado/) - I was having dinner with a good friend the other night and I was sharing a few more thoughts that I usually share and it hit me. It just literally hit me over the head. I had stopped sharing my personal thoughts and feelings with others. I was used to sharing the superficial self. After
- [The Permanence of NEVER](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/07/06/the-permanence-of-never/) - I wasn’t a writer before he died. But grief turned out to be the great word maker. A great obliterator. It shook me to get these words out. When grief found me inconsolable it gave me a pen and said write your way out, console yourself. Get yourself beyond the insanity. (Click to tweet!) But I
- [The Blades](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/07/13/the-blades/) - I often think about kneeling on the ground to pray. I don’t do it. But I have the feeling of it. It’s hard to be strong all the time. Knowing that nobody can help you. People who are strong, are strong endlessly. I have never met someone who was strong for a few days and
- [The Monkey Bars](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/07/27/the-monkey-bars/) - It’s not a dance. Or a musical piece. And it’s not a walk on the beach. It’s a bruise. A gasp. A torture. I am talking about life. Not even after loss, just life. I think the first time I realized life was hard was when this girl at my middle school grabbed me from
- [What is the Meaning of Home After Loss](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/08/03/what-is-the-meaning-of-home-after-loss/) - I have been writing about life after loss for almost 8 years and it just hit me today. After loss, tragic loss especially, the feeling of home is hard to find. You never feel at home again. You move houses. You look for new beginnings but nothing is quite like the home feeling you had
- [The Room Walker](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/08/17/the-room-walker/) - You are one tiny thought away from a completely different life. (Click Here to Tweet!) But we live inside a room with no windows. A room that keeps us thinking this is the only room. There are Infinite rooms. I didn’t really understand this fully until the last couple of years. You see, all of
- [Who Am I Now?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/08/31/who-am-i-now/) - When I dropped off my daughter to college last week, it was as if my whole world was demolishing. All the buildings that made my life, were falling apart. I could even hear the buildings falling. The rubble. When your life is changing there is an audio of the universe moving things around. The maneuvering
- [One Single Thought](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/09/07/one-single-thought/) - I have so many things to tell you today. I wish I could just drop in at your home. Have coffee and chat. Tell you that you will be ok. Tell you that life is hard but it is also very good. Tell you that we will lose so much but with every loss we
- [Loving Again After Loss](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/09/14/loving-again-after-loss/) - Someone asked me the other day on Facebook about my husband, the man I married after my loss. She wasn’t the first one to ask. Many people over the years have asked about him. I mention him in the Second Firsts book a little bit. But over the course of the 8 years I have
- [Goodbye Survivor, I Have Work To Do](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/09/21/goodbye-survivor-i-have-work-to-do/) - I first met her after my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. Her first words were... you should have been the one dying. It would have been easier. Then she went on to tell me that I would not be able to raise my kids without him, that he was the smart one.
- [One Day You Will Be Asked To Fly](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/10/12/one-day-you-will-be-asked-to-fly/) - I was taken aback. Stopped in my tracks. I was about to climb again just like I normally do every day. And that’s when I saw it. The summit. The top of my mountain. I froze. I sat there. There was no hill to climb. Just sky. I didn’t know what to do with the
- [What if they can hear you?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/10/19/what-if-they-can-hear-you/) - What if you can talk to your child. Your husband. Your wife. Your father. Your mother. Your friend, even after their passing. What if that’s what we are supposed to do. What if they want us to do that. What if they can hear us. What if they can talk to us? But not unless
- [You are NOT late to the Party](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/10/26/you-are-not-late-to-the-party/) - I moved from Greece to England when I was 18 years old. My english was ok but certainly not fluent in writing or speaking. And I was attempting to get into college. It took me three years to pass the exams and get language fluency. And because of that everyone else in my classes, in
- [Writing from the Roller Coaster](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/11/09/writing-from-the-roller-coaster/) - Maybe I will stay inside the ups and downs. The highs and lows. After all, the roller coaster makes you a good writer. Did you know? It makes you brave. It makes your hair look crazy too. :) Your heart beats as if there are two hearts inside of you. You don’t have time for
- [Beyond Here](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/11/16/beyond-here/) - Forgive me for lately, I have been seeking the unseekable. The unseen. The very hard to find. Seeking the answers to the bigger questions. Sometimes I get mad with the world. How dare we not ask these questions. How dare we close our eyes and go to sleep without wanting to know. Why are we
- [You are Here to Love Many Times](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/11/30/you-are-here-to-love-many-times/) - I know you feel alone. I know you ask the question will I ever love again? Our lives after loss can almost feel foreign. We got stripped away from all that made us who we are. And we go home every night alone. The lights are off. The house unchanged. You can’t escape what happened
- [Honestly, Life After Loss Feels Like Boot Camp](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/06/22/honestly-life-loss-feels-like-boot-camp/) - You can be with as many people as possible but the you inside of you, is alone. You experience everything as one. Every emotion is not felt through you as a group or as a family. Even if everyone feels the same grief or fear, it is not felt together. The emotion doesn’t get shared.
- [Five things you need to know about your life after loss](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/12/14/five-things-you-need-to-know-about-your-life-after-loss/) - I was finishing an interview with the incredible Jamie Butler at the Lighter Side show which by the way you need to check out. An incredible human being and I highly recommend her work. Our interview together will be posted next week. As we finished our chat Jamie asked me where do you get all
- [The 10 surprising things I learned about LIFE from visiting the AFTERLIFE](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/12/21/the-10-surprising-things-i-learned-about-life-from-visiting-the-afterlife/) - When my husband died in 2006, I discovered that the distance between life and death was very short. It became very clear that we are here one moment and gone the next. Death is immediate. I may even go as far as to say that death is not inside our linear time. If you blink
- [How to Wake Up your Dragon in 2019](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/12/28/how-wake-up-dragon-2019/) - You have to have a strong sense of self. A clear picture of who you are, what you stand for. What it is you believe in. You have to be tree-like, like the trees with huge trunks, that can’t be destroyed in bad weather. You must claim your place in the world, and not be
- [All the things that Mary Poppins is teaching us](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/01/04/all-things-mary-poppins-teaching-us/) - I saw Mary Poppins Returns movie trailer appearing every day as I was getting ready for the release of Where Did You Go? But I never put the two together. How could have I known? How could I have foreseen such a thing? That they were not only being released at the exact same time,
- [The Guide To Being Outrageous Before, After And While Grieving](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/01/11/guide-being-outrageous-before-after-while-grieving/) - I have to tell you. I am getting too used to living outside the box. With the minority. From outside the mainstream. From the corner of the universe. As a matter of fact, it is kind of fun to say outrageous things. Shock your friends and family members. I am enjoying this. More than I ever thought
- [How To Take Off Your Clothes And Claim Your Destiny](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/01/18/how-to-take-off-your-clothes-and-claim-your-destiny/) - All of a sudden, I found myself in a place without the paralyzing fear I had been feeling. It was like oxygen in my lungs. Euphoria. Ecstasy even. Imagine life without fear. Even just imagining this, brings you to a deep breath. Yes. At first it was truly a surprising feeling but I was enjoying
- [The Boxing Ring](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/01/25/the-boxing-ring/) - Some days it’s like your life is inside a boxing ring. You are being thrown around. You can’t get out, or look like you are in pain. Nobody knows what this really feels like. They think you can handle it. But deep down you are hurting. Fantasizing that you are crawling out of the ring.
- [You Have To Stop Fixing What Cannot Be Fixed](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/02/08/you-have-to-stop-fixing-what-cannot-be-fixed/) - It comes like a tsunami. It forces itself inside your house. With madness. You run out your front door. When the tsunami ends, your house is destroyed. Your things don’t look like your things anymore. Your bed is not in your bedroom. Your kitchen has no food that can be eaten. You sit and cry
- [Don’t Get on the Anniversary Train](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/11/02/dont-get-on-the-anniversary-train/) - I have been writing to you for 4 years and I have never written about what to do with the anniversaries of loss. A wonderful woman reached out to me yesterday and asked me if I would write about this. So here it goes. Anniversaries of loss feel like a big train approaching the platform.
- [The Sea Is Empty of You](https://christinarasmussen.com/2019/02/01/sea-empty-of-you/) - I wish I could go back. Back to the beach, laughing like drunk fools getting lost in your eyes holding each other as if we were immortal. Like the sea always is mimicking the waves, buzzing with love, mesmerized. The sunset flaming over us, luminous, against your young skin. Stepping on the sand, earth mingling,
- [The 10 Things I Wish I Knew About The Holidays After Loss](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/12/07/the-10-things-i-wish-i-knew-about-the-holidays-after-loss/) - I started this letter at a time when nobody was writing about grief, or even about grief and the Holidays. And those who were, were not discussing the elephant in the room. The loneliness. The deep sadness of the Holidays. You see, happy seasons, are the saddest seasons for people who are grieving. Even the
- [Have a Meaningful Thanksgiving](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/11/22/have-a-meaningful-thanksgiving/) - I find daily life that is made of anything but meaning, pointless. Books that deal with drama, uninteresting. Gatherings that have superficial conversations, waste of time. And at this juncture I always add, especially for those of us who have endured loss. The time we spend in the nothingness of routine can actually put us
- [HOPE](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/09/28/hope/) - It comes in like a lullaby. Quiet at first but so melodical that you recognize it. It calms you down and it gets you through another day. It almost feels like it is coming from really far away, from a different place. Outside of earth. I am talking about Hope. The most precious feeling especially
- [Do Whatever it Takes to Get Through This](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/08/10/do-whatever-it-takes-to-get-through-this/) - “Do whatever you have to, to get through the pain after I am gone.” my husband said to me a few months before he died. “Whatever it takes.” he said. “It doesn’t matter what it is you have to do, if it makes you feel better then do it.” I didn’t always follow his advice
- [60 Selves and Counting](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/07/20/60-selves-counting/) - It has been 12 years. He passed 2:00 am EST on July 21st 2006. If I could count all the selves I have been since that night I would probably count at least 60. The first 4 came in and out really fast. I will tell you about them later on. There were 40 or
- [The Ladybird On Your Hand](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/06/15/the-ladybird-on-your-hand/) - I was on the train last night going in to the city to celebrate my friend’s new book, and the ride felt unnaturally long. It was as if we were traveling thousands of miles. I have been on that train many times. The 30 minutes go by so fast normally, but not last night. It
- [We Walked on the Edge](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/06/08/we-walked-on-the-edge/) - It’s like the side of your foot doesn’t have anywhere to rest on. You can’t stand still when you are on there. There is no space to. It is as if you can lose it all. It is the all or nothing arena. You feel like throwing up just before you step on it. Sleep
- [Find the Code](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/03/08/find-the-code/) - Emotional pain is not all the same. Not measured in a simple scale of easy, hard, very hard. It has many directions. It moves across your chest. And then digs in as if your physical body is endless. There is the throwing up kind of pain. Where its movement causes you to feel nausea. Then
- [Change Does Not Feel Like Breaking Bread](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/03/02/change-does-not-feel-like-breaking-bread/) - Change does not feel like breaking bread. Nope. It does not feel like chopping wood either. It is not like swimming. Or running. Or even climbing. Nope none of these. However hard some of them are. Change is so much harder. It feels like learning to walk on water. Learning to fly without wings. It
- [Together Forever](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/02/23/together-forever/) - Oh life, you are so complex. You give, you take. We ask. You respond. We live. We die. We lose. We cry. We mourn. We re enter. (Click to Tweet!) My daughter is going to college in the fall. She was six when her dad died. Her sister was four. We began a journey together. The
- [You have always been the storm](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/02/16/you-have-always-been-the-storm/) - My heart was beating almost as if it was everywhere. Not just inside my chest. But inside the two hundred and fifty humans that were waiting to hear me speak. It was on the walls of the conference room. Inside the mic on my blouse. On the stage. Like a storm of heartbeats. That is
- [I Stopped Internally Combusting](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/02/09/stopped-internally-combusting/) - I stopped it. It was only for a few seconds. A few seconds not being who I had been. The stop, crushed me. The interruption of who I was, brought on panic. I interrupted the force that had kept me going. The engine I installed inside my brain to keep me from losing my mind
- [Endings](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/02/02/endings/) - It was not like any other day. Something was in the air. A heaviness, with no name. A knowing. A goodbye. An Ending. A full stop. And it was known. Nothing could prevent it. Nothing at all. It was coming. Like all endings do. The Ending arrived quietly. Almost like a whisper. “I am here, and I need to
- [Don't Stand At The Door](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/01/26/dont-stand-door/) - I search and search and search. Behind every word I say. After every new decision. I seek to find myself, the self that lives underneath the rubble. Under the invisible losses. And hiding, still. Sometimes I wonder if I lost her completely. But as soon as I do, I see her. I hear her. I
- [There is Someone Living in my Attic](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/01/19/someone-living-attic/) - Whenever I want to give up, I think of the bold words of Ralph Waldo Emerson “God will not have his work made manifest by cowards” And I want to scream. I am not a coward, God. I am not a coward. I will keep going. Keep knocking on doors. Keep doing the work. Keep making
- [Miracles are real](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/01/12/miracles-are-real/) - I think magic is real. More real than your table. The chair. Your coffee too. Miracles are real too. Science proves it. Religion talks about it. Sometimes loss takes away our belief in miracles. It tells us that the only real things are the things we can see. Touch. Hear. Everything else must not
- [No More Lies After Loss](https://christinarasmussen.com/2018/01/05/no-more-lies-after-loss/) - ‘The Life we live, is the lesson we teach’ my friend Jim Kwik mentioned in one of his writings. I read it just before I was going to sit down and write to you. And it hit me. The life I live. Is the lesson I teach. Thank you Jim, for putting it so
- [There is no candy hanging on your alarm clock.](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/12/29/there-is-no-candy-hanging-on-your-alarm-clock/) - I am approaching the next year with sadness. But not the type of sadness that can be labeled. Not the type of sadness that most therapists would call depression. It is not like that. I know your sadness is not like that, either. The type of sadness that I feel is not easily articulated
- [Give This Letter to the People Who Invite You Over During the Holidays](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/12/22/give-this-letter-to-the-people-who-invite-you-over-during-the-holidays/) - What do you say to someone who lost the love of their life and they have to go through the Holiday season on their own? What? What do you say to them? You don’t say I am sorry. You don’t just invite them to mindless dinners. You don’t ask them how can I help.
- [Something Inside of Me Has Always Been Here](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/12/22/something-inside-of-me-has-always-been-here/) - I know it has been a while since I last wrote to you. But it has been one fascinating year […] The post Something Inside of Me Has Always Been Here appeared first on Star Letters. Source: SL
- [How to Make Trees](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/12/15/how-to-make-trees/) - What does it mean to feel your feelings and be with them? Hold them. Hold them as if it is not too much for you. As if there is a tiny lake surrounded by beautiful woods and valleys. I want my feelings, to feel this way. Like a lake surrounded by a forest. I
- [The Quiet Pain](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/12/08/the-quiet-pain/) - I jammed my thumb in the door of my car last Saturday. The door closed completely. Not just a little bit. But all the way, shut. As if my thumb was not inside the door. I nearly passed out but I had to find the strength to open the door to get my thumb back
- [The Outside Heart](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/12/01/the-outside-heart/) - If someone painted me, they would have to paint my heart outside of my chest. It is hanging there, feeling, experiencing. My heart processes everything first. Then it gives it to my head. Most of the time my heart takes things very personally. It goes into a heartbreaking position. I have been trying to get
- [Loss of Connection Does Not Mean Loss of Love](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/11/23/loss-of-connection-does-not-mean-loss-of-love/) - It is in the gathering of our family and friends that we see ourselves. It is at the dinner table and the get togethers that we realize we are not alike. It is then, when you learn the most about yourself. You learn that you have changed. You observe that you are not as alike
- [The Glue Under Your Feet](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/11/17/the-glue-under-your-feet/) - It may seem unending. Your shoulders, shuddering. The day, unyielding. But did you know you can bear the loss? It may be easier for me to talk to the people who are just feeling a little down today. It is easier to lift them up. But I am not talking to them. I am talking
- [It Found You Crying in Front of the TV](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/11/10/it-found-you-crying-in-front-of-the-tv/) - I don’t know how it comes back, but it does. It comes knocking on your door. Even though you can barely notice it at first. I am talking about the feeling of wanting to live again. I know you never thought it would come back. You didn’t believe it could find you. But it did.
- [Grief Woke Me Up and Now I Can’t Go Back to Sleep](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/11/03/grief-woke-me-up-and-now-i-cant-go-back-to-sleep/) - I was completely blind before loss. Actually no, not blind. Hypnotized. Going about my day, as a wife, mother of toddlers, friendly neighbor, you know the rest. Living but not really living. And even after loss, I tried to go back to the hypnosis. Get the job I should be getting. Have people over for
- [Don’t Ask Me How Long Grief Lasts](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/10/27/dont-ask-me-how-long-grief-lasts/) - “How long does grief last?” Someone asked me the other day. “You still write about it Christina, 11 years later. Are you still grieving?” I don’t know, but something happens to me when I am asked these questions. I want to start laughing out loud. You know that ironic laughter, that insinuates that this is
- [Have You Been Afraid of Your Next Self?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/10/20/have-you-been-afraid-of-your-next-self/) - It feels quiet. Listening to Billie Holiday, I’ll be seeing you. A few days away from finishing my next book, Where did you go? The book I have been afraid to write but found the courage to do so. I found this place, outside of this world we live in, and took everyone there. Risking
- [Your Small Bathroom Window](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/10/13/your-small-bathroom-window/) - I grew these last few weeks. And it hurt. It felt as if my skin stretched beyond what it could. Growth is like another person is trying to come through you and it is not as natural as birth. It feels wrong. It feels as if you are sick. My hair’s falling out. My tooth
- [60 Seconds](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/07/11/60-seconds/) - I was determined to get there. I wanted to conquer my brain and find a way to not listen to the lies it was internally screaming at me as I was dripping sweat on the gym floor. My body was experiencing an earthquake. It was shaken like it was about to break into a million
- [Happy 4th. May the Source Be with You.](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/07/04/happy-4th-of-july-source/) - Dear…. Since this week’s Star Letter falls on the 4th of July I just want to wish you a fun happy day with your family. Find a way to bring the universe by your side even as you are barbecuing and sitting by the fire roasting marshmallows. (Click to Tweet!) It is in this physical
- [Where Is the Echo Coming From?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/06/27/where-is-echo-coming-from/) - Lately, I have been experiencing buckets of synchronicity. Not just frequent. But in buckets. It happens every day, every hour of the day. So much so that I now consider it normal. I go about my day and I expect my life to have a mirroring effect. When I speak, the TV in the background
- [The Thoughts behind the Thoughts](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/06/20/thoughts-behind-thoughts/) - I know you have some very interesting thoughts, thoughts that you don’t like to share with others. These thoughts sometimes tell you about life and its weirdness. They tell you about your experience of your day. If you lean in and listen beyond the basic thoughts you will find a deeper message. Something more than
- [You Have a Guiding Mechanism inside of You](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/06/13/guiding-mechanism-inside-you/) - What if we were allowed to believe that we have guides that guide us. Whenever we had a problem to solve or we needed guidance we could turn inwards and ask for help. What if growing up our parents told us to go within for the answers. Not just the select few parents but
- [Who Wants to Live Forever? I Do.](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/06/06/wants-live-forever/) - For as long as I am inside a physical existence, I will always be afraid of dying. Even though I know that death is not real. It doesn’t make sense. I know. You wonder how can I be afraid of something that I don’t believe exists. But no matter how much I believe that we
- [Which Galaxy Mimics a Beating Heart?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/06/01/galaxy-mimics-beating-heart/) - When I first started out in college, I was a Pre-Med major. I loved anatomy and still do. I took an amazing course in high school and it has been one of my academic loves ever since. My favorite part of human anatomy, though, is the heart. It’s a beautiful organ, that works like a
- [Juno: “Honey, I’m Home.”](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/05/31/juno-jupiter-nasa/) - If someone ever tells you that scientists don’t have a sense of humor, tell them this story. Last summer, NASA launched the probe Juno to study the largest planet in our solar system: Jupiter. In Roman mythology, the head god is named Jupiter. Like his Greek counterpart, Zeus, he has lots of affairs with women.
- [We Are Nothing but Melodies](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/05/30/we-are-nothing-but-melodies/) - Lately, I have wondered about us. How is it that we can’t find our way to all the knowledge that exists out there already. How come we don’t live our life from a place of awe. Maybe not always but to find a moment each day to marvel at this very strange place we call
- [Learning about Trappist-1h](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/05/24/learning-about-trappist-1h/) - Ever since NASA announced that they had found a whole solar system of exoplanets that they believed to be similar to Earth they called TRAPPIST-1, I have been dreaming about the day humans can travel to live there. Since the discovery of the seven planets, scientists are trying to learn as much as they can
- [Dear Jupiter, I Have Feelings for You](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/05/23/dear-jupiter-feelings-for-you/) - Just because I am happy, it doesn’t mean that I don’t get sad. As a matter of fact, you can feel your sadness even more because of your happiness. It is such a contrasting feeling. Lately, I have been contemplating a lot about friendships and loneliness. And my mind always goes to the stars when
- [The Mars Generation: A Review](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/05/19/the-mars-generation-a-review/) - This week, Star Letters announced the launch of a new program: Reaching For The Stars: Star Letters Youth Program. The goal of our program is to help inspire children to look up and consider careers in the STEM fields to further advance humanity’s progress into space. We firmly believe that children are our future and
- [Dreaming of a Bright Future in Space? Check out NASA's Community College Aerospace Scholars Program.](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/05/18/nasa-community-college-aerospace/) - Around this time last year, I was a History major at Illinois Central College (ICC) in Peoria, IL, and was struggling to find passion in what I was doing in school. I was in Community College and couldn’t help but feel like I wasn’t doing as much as my high school classmates who were at
- [Seriously Scary Stars - Supernovas](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/05/17/seriously-scary-stars-supernovas/) - One of my favorite parts about writing for Star Letters is that I get to spend time researching one of the most beautiful places that humanity has ever had the privilege of seeing. The beauty of space, however, does not negate the fact that the universe is a dangerous place. It is filled with all
- [A New Dimension of Health](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/05/16/new-dimension-health/) - I wish I knew then what I know now. Don’t we all wish that? My first husband died of colon cancer ten years ago. At the time he was only 35 years old. I wish I could tell him all the things I learned about health after he passed. Even though at the time we
- [Neil deGrasse Tyson's Universe](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/05/09/neil-degrasse-tysons-universe/) - “I am worried about you Christina, I love your other work and I won’t stop reading you there but this? Well, I have to unsubscribe from here.” someone wrote to me the other day. “I wish you the very best.” she concluded. She has not been the only one who has written these type of
- [What It Means to Be a Cosmic Seer](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/05/02/means-cosmic-seer/) - Some people ask me the reason why I talk about the stars so much. Why do I mention space exploration in my conversations so often? To me, it is rather strange how we don’t talk about the stars more. How we don’t find it surprising that we are so small in contrast to the
- [This Is Not Your Only Reality](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/04/25/this-is-not-your-only-reality/) - We live in a parallel universe that is holographic. We go to bed at night and enter dreams that take us to other worlds. We know that our consciousness never dies. We look up at the sky and see an infinite and vast world. And yet we turn away from all of the above and
- [We Are All Talking About the Same God](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/04/18/we-are-all-talking-about-the-same-god/) - When I started writing my next book (coming out late 2018) I was determined to stay as close to science as possible, especially in regards to what happens to us when we die. But the more I read and researched the more I saw something I didn’t expect. However, I didn’t really say it out
- [Close Your Eyes and See](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/04/11/close-eyes-see/) - I created this blog so more and more people find their way towards a life they can design as well as a life that is outside of grief and pain. Outside of a predetermined destiny about life. I believe that we get to create our reality and a lot of us do this by accident
- [I Observe Therefore I Create](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/04/04/observe-therefore-create/) - Imagine for a second that the life you are experiencing here has many versions. But you can’t see the other versions, therefore, you think there is only one. It is the one you observe every day. You wake up each morning and you think about this day, this life, this job, this house, this to
- [Turn off Your TV. Turn on Your Consciousness.](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/03/28/turn-off-tv-turn-consciousness/) - I dream of an earth where we no longer rely on space and time to understand our experience in this body. I dream of a time when we can close our eyes and transport ourselves into other dimensions beyond boundaries and physical walls. Where we can fly by just thinking of it. I know deep
- [Anna's Hidden Reality](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/03/21/annas-hidden-reality/) - Once upon a time, there was a woman named Anna who felt that life was not very fair. You see, not only had her husband left her for a younger woman but her boss at work just promoted someone who had been at the company for a short amount of time instead of her. Also,
- [We Only Die in Someone Else's Reality](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/03/14/die-someone-elses-reality/) - I was 11 years old when I had my first dream that I had died. I woke up out of breath, confused. The room was dark and the darkness made my own death real, present. I didn’t know anything about the cosmos then. The little I knew about the cosmos was through watching Star Trek.
- [Get Quiet to Unlock Your Heart](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/02/28/get-quiet-unlock-heart/) - Today’s Star Letter is from Elaine Glass. *** I found you in the midst of a trillion stars. Shining off the backdrop of a colorful and fiery Universe. As Twin Stars, our Twin Souls collided and were blinded by our collective energies. We danced on top of white cotton candy clouds, spinning somersaults and tasting
- [Is space travel to the 7 exoplanets possible?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/02/23/space-travel-7-exoplanets-possible/) - After yesterday’s NASA announcement everyone started to think about what it would be like to travel to space and visit these new 7 exoplanets. What we know for sure is that it would take NASA’s space shuttle at least 1.5 million years to get there. NASA’S new Horizon spacecraft would take over 800,000 years in
- [The Soul's Contract](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/02/21/the-souls-contract/) - I have always been fascinated in the reasons behind the connections we make with specific people in our life. Why we marry someone who ends up hurting us. Why we find it hard to move on from a relationship that is not good for us. The list of my questions on the topic of destiny
- [You Can Find Love Again](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/02/14/can-find-love/) - Once a year humans on earth celebrate love. Love is energy that lives outside of time and space. It travels to the other side after death and it is found again in both the non-physical and physical worlds. It is magical. It defies laws. It is immortal. It connects us to the many humans we
- [You are going to make it.](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/01/17/you-are-going-to-make-it/) - What if I told you we hold inside of us everything that lives on the outside. The successes. The failures. The heartbreaks. The magical moments. There is a field of energy that connects our physical bodies to everything you see around you and beyond. I received a question from a reader that I felt I needed
- [The Dream Experiment](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/01/10/the-dream-experiment/) - I was sleeping in a room I had never seen before. A twin bed tucked on one of the walls in the tiny room and right across from it a painting with light shinning on it. It was as if the light was there just for me. The painting was mesmerizing, you felt it in
- [Why don't you want to know?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2017/01/03/why-dont-you-want-to-know/) - I am never ever going to stop exploring the nature of our universe. I am just not willing to live in the darkness and turn my back on scientific findings of incredible truths and pretend this is the only version of reality. Why do that? Why live a life that is seen through one hole
- [May all your chosen realities come true](https://christinarasmussen.com/2016/12/27/may-chosen-realities-come-true/) - I have to admit to you that writing this particular Star Letter was incredibly difficult. As the New Year is approaching I have been receiving questions from readers who have been wondering what the New Year will bring in their lives. Will they make their dreams come true finally? How will life look like in
- [How do I get through the holidays?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2016/12/20/get-through-the-holidays/) - As the Holidays are approaching I thought I would respond to a question from a reader who lost her beloved husband and is having a tough time during the holidays. The question was sent to me last week and it said: “How do I get through these Holidays intact? This is the first Christmas without
- [Divorce is Not Real in the Quantum World](https://christinarasmussen.com/2016/12/13/divorce-not-real-quantum-world/) - This past week I received a question that I had to ponder on for a while. The question went like this “What if we lose someone but they are still here. As in divorce? What if you still hold the love but they do not? Will that love ever live again? Dear anonymous, I am
- [Have We Met Before?](https://christinarasmussen.com/2016/12/06/have-we-met-before/) - One of the questions I received this last week from a reader was... “Dear Stars, will I see the people I lost again?” Dear Anonymous, I feel your deep longing for the people you lost. I know you need some rest or at least reassurance that somehow, somewhere there is this possibility of being with
- [The Sky Is Alive](https://christinarasmussen.com/2016/11/28/the-sky-is-alive/) - I wasn’t always so curious about the stars. As a matter of fact, I only cared about them when they were in a science fiction movie. But everything changed when in 2006 my very young husband passed away. I was left heartbroken. The fact that he was here one moment and gone the next was

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- [darkness to light](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/darkness-to-light/)
- [Journey of Souls](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/journey-of-souls/)
- [Michael Newton](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/michael-newton/)
- [Carl Jung](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/carl-jung/)
- [Immortal Essence](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/immortal-essence/)
- [Figures of Light](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/figures-of-light/)
- [Life After Loss](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/life-after-loss/)
- [Greiving Process](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/greiving-process/)
- [Devastating Pain](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/devastating-pain/)
- [NASA](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/nasa/)
- [7 exoplanets](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/7-exoplanets/)
- [planetary travel](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/planetary-travel/)
- [space travel](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/space-travel/)
- [spaceship](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/spaceship/)
- [private space flight](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/private-space-flight/)
- [horizon spacecraft](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/horizon-spacecraft/)
- [earth like planets](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/earth-like-planets/)
- [exoplanets](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/exoplanets/)
- [stars](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/stars/)
- [energy](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/energy/)
- [heal](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/heal/)
- [Elaine Glass](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/elaine-glass/)
- [magnetic energy](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/magnetic-energy/)
- [soul mate](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/soul-mate/)
- [supernova](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/supernova/)
- [quiet](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/quiet/)
- [stillness](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/stillness/)
- [sanctuary](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/sanctuary/)
- [spiritual](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/spiritual/)
- [calm](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/calm/)
- [well-being](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/well-being/)
- [wellness](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/wellness/)
- [Central Nervous System](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/central-nervous-system/)
- [body](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/body/)
- [joy](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/joy/)
- [inner peace](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/inner-peace/)
- [unconditional love](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/unconditional-love/)
- [freedom](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/freedom/)
- [space](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/space/)
- [imagination](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/imagination/)
- [faith](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/faith/)
- [parallel universes](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/parallel-universes/)
- [non-physical world](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/non-physical-world/)
- [life after death](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/life-after-death/)
- [biocentrism](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/biocentrism/)
- [books about death](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/books-about-death/)
- [beyond biocentrism](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/beyond-biocentrism/)
- [speed of light](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/speed-of-light/)
- [robert lanza](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/robert-lanza/)
- [my reality](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/my-reality/)
- [died in my reality](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/died-in-my-reality/)
- [the people I loved and lost](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/the-people-i-loved-and-lost/)
- [death is not real](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/death-is-not-real/)
- [physical body](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/physical-body/)
- [the body exists in the mind](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/the-body-exists-in-the-mind/)
- [divorce](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/divorce/)
- [science fiction](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/science-fiction/)
- [missed promotion](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/missed-promotion/)
- [life is not fair](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/life-is-not-fair/)
- [brain is a filter](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/brain-is-a-filter/)
- [filtering reality](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/filtering-reality/)
- [present moment](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/present-moment/)
- [shifting reality](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/shifting-reality/)
- [look at yourself in a new way](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/look-at-yourself-in-a-new-way/)
- [inner reality](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/inner-reality/)
- [shift](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/shift/)
- [loss of husband](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/loss-of-husband/)
- [new life](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/new-life/)
- [turn off your tv](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/turn-off-your-tv/)
- [dream state](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/dream-state/)
- [mediation](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/mediation/)
- [virtual reality](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/virtual-reality/)
- [time travel](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/time-travel/)
- [why are we so afraid](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/why-are-we-so-afraid/)
- [location of my consciousness](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/location-of-my-consciousness/)
- [christina rasmussed grieving process](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/christina-rasmussed-grieving-process/)
- [CIA](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/cia/)
- [illusion of life](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/illusion-of-life/)
- [stargate project](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/stargate-project/)
- [TV](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/tv/)
- [observer effect](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/observer-effect/)
- [neale donald walsch](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/neale-donald-walsch/)
- [quantum physics](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/quantum-physics/)
- [all potentials exist](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/all-potentials-exist/)
- [change the trajectory of your life](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/change-the-trajectory-of-your-life/)
- [experience other universes](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/experience-other-universes/)
- [many versions of you](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/many-versions-of-you/)
- [bruce h lipton](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/bruce-h-lipton/)
- [create your own reality](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/create-your-own-reality/)
- [question reality](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/question-reality/)
- [albert einstein](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/albert-einstein/)
- [atoms](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/atoms/)
- [subatomic particles](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/subatomic-particles/)
- [create your life](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/create-your-life/)
- [look within](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/look-within/)
- [brain science](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/brain-science/)
- [paradigm shift](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/paradigm-shift/)
- [meditation](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/meditation/)
- [holographic](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/holographic/)
- [paul mccartney](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/paul-mccartney/)
- [Neil deGrasse Tyson](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/neil-degrasse-tyson/)
- [Astrophysics for people in a hurry](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/astrophysics-for-people-in-a-hurry/)
- [astrophysics](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/astrophysics/)
- [space exploration](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/space-exploration/)
- [Joseph P Allen](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/joseph-p-allen/)
- [Edgar Mitchell](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/edgar-mitchell/)
- [telescope](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/telescope/)
- [the moon](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/the-moon/)
- [look up](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/look-up/)
- [look at the stars](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/look-at-the-stars/)
- [heal yourself](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/heal-yourself/)
- [heal your body](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/heal-your-body/)
- [vibrational healing](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/vibrational-healing/)
- [Mars](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/mars/)
- [netflix](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/netflix/)
- [the mars generation](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/the-mars-generation/)
- [solar system](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/solar-system/)
- [Jupiter](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/jupiter/)
- [Saddness](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/saddness/)
- [Thomas Zurbuchen](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/thomas-zurbuchen/)
- [trappist 1h](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/trappist-1h/)
- [life on other planets](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/life-on-other-planets/)
- [kepler](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/kepler/)
- [big bang](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/big-bang/)
- [dr. kaku](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/dr-kaku/)
- [Juno](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/juno/)
- [live forever](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/live-forever/)
- [dying](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/dying/)
- [observer](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/observer/)
- [superwatcher](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/superwatcher/)
- [god](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/god/)
- [thoughts](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/thoughts/)
- [deeper message](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/deeper-message/)
- [divine](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/divine/)
- [Syncronicity](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/syncronicity/)
- [Eternal](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/eternal/)
- [plank](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/plank/)
- [gym](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/gym/)
- [exercise](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/exercise/)
- [mind](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/mind/)
- [song](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/song/)
- [sing](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/sing/)
- [courage](https://christinarasmussen.com/tag/courage/)